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how to possibly win over the easily accessible cycles of self-violence (article)

Yes, I've gone there.

This is a risky topic. It is risky because it typically requires licensed professionals to address this topic.


Let's just spark a conversation about something important, and let's just listen to one another.

I've had close friends and co-workers who had visible marks along their arms and the first time I learned about it, it hurt.

I also believe that not all marks are visible, and that many practice self-violence in ways that cannot be easily pinpointed.

Self-violence sounds harsh, perhaps self-hurt or self-guilt leading to the expression of pain may also be more appropriate, to me. Why do I feel this way?

I think compassion is really important.

I is so easy for me to have compassion for others yet be so hard on myself when things do not go as planned. Sometimes I'm hard on myself and I can blame someone for my hurt and at other times I feel like I am the only one who could possibly be responsible.

Pain hurts.

Sometimes it is easy to pretend that pain does not phase us. What should we do?

Please share your thoughts and feelings in the comment section below. And please know that you are a lovely human being.

(And please share any links for professional resources for those struggling.)

You are loved.

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"If I push you fall, if I inspire you fly, you are loved as you are, you don't need to try." Book #2